Is Your Relationship Thriving or Stagnating?

Is Your Relationship Thriving or Stagnating? by Jacquie Wise Image – Thriving and dying plants To ensure your relationships (including friendships for that matter) continue to thrive, you need to review if your mutual needs are being met. In much the same way as you review your career, personal or health progress to ensure success, why Read more about Is Your Relationship Thriving or Stagnating?[…]

Break up without breaking a heart

Break up without breaking a heart

Break up without breaking a heart By Jacquie Wise Do you have the courage to break up in the right way? Do you even know what the ‘right’ way is? There are specific steps you can take to minimise the risk of breaking up in the first place, and minimise heart-breaks if there is hope of Read more about Break up without breaking a heart[…]

Do you have to forgive people who have hurt you?

Do you have to forgive people who have hurt you? by Jacquie Wise At Christmas time we are often thrown together with people we don’t especially like, or worse, with whom we’ve fallen out. General advice tells you to forgive, to be loving…not necessarily easy, nor appropriate. So what other options do you have? We can Read more about Do you have to forgive people who have hurt you?[…]

How do you trust someone in a relationship?

How do you trust someone in a relationship? by Jacquie Wise There are three levels of trust in relationships We all want to be trusted. If you don’t have faith in people, how can you learn to trust? First level of trust You can trust a person when they do what they are obliged to do and they don’t depart from Read more about How do you trust someone in a relationship?[…]

I don’t want to say I love you anymore

I don’t want to say I love you anymore by Jacquie Wise Question My partner and I have been getting increasingly defensive with each other. As tensions build, I put up walls and then he steps back, then I step back some more and we’re both putting up walls. We’re both fiery personalities, trying to make Read more about I don’t want to say I love you anymore[…]

Seven Types of Romantic Partners

Seven Types of Romantic Partners

by Jacquie Wise Coconuts: These people have developed a hard protective shell on the outside that’s a real challenge to get through. But once you find a way to crack that shell, you discover soft sweetness on the inside that’s very easy to live with. Peaches: They are soft and receptive on the outside; they let Read more about Seven Types of Romantic Partners[…]

Are you in really in love or just infatuated?

Are you really in love or just infatuated? by Jacquie Wise If you’ve lost confidence in your judgement, here’s a way to protect yourself. It’s too easy for us to make mistakes in important relationships. Perhaps we confuse infatuation and physical attraction with love. We believe that if we ‘fall in love’, the rest will fall Read more about Are you in really in love or just infatuated?[…]

Charlie Chaplin – As I Began To Love Myself – Self Love Poem

Charlie Chaplin – As I Began To Love Myself – Self Love Poem by Jacquie Wise The post Charlie Chaplin – As I Began To Love Myself – Self Love Poem appeared first on The Unbounded Spirit Charlie Chaplin wrote a beautiful self-love poem on his 70th birthday (April 16, 1959). I was struck by the Read more about Charlie Chaplin – As I Began To Love Myself – Self Love Poem[…]

Eight Wise Ways to be a Loving Person and Attract Love in Your Life

Eight Wise Ways to be a Loving Person and Attract Love in Your Life by Jacquie Wise If you want to attract love in your life, be it through a partner, loving friends or family, you need to be a loving person yourself. Only love attracts a loving vibration. Here are eight Wise Ways to be Read more about Eight Wise Ways to be a Loving Person and Attract Love in Your Life[…]

The Etiquette of Kissing and Hugging

The Etiquette of Kissing and Hugging by Jacquie Wise I had intriguing conversations with talk-back callers to the ABC 774AM Jon Faine radio show, where I was interviewed this week. The topic was the etiquette of kissing and hugging. We were talking about the air-kisses and lean-to gestures that pass as hugs that are an increasing Read more about The Etiquette of Kissing and Hugging[…]

Forget New Year Resolutions – Go for New Year Revolutions

Forget New Year Resolutions – Go for New Year Revolutions by Jacquie Wise Many of us begin with good intentions that somehow fade as the year progresses. It might work better for you if you focus on the things you want to STOP doing. There are two approaches to life. Some of us prefer to move Read more about Forget New Year Resolutions – Go for New Year Revolutions[…]

Women’s English and Men’s English

Women’s English and Men’s English Found these comments in an old email I received a long time ago – unfortunately, author is unknown but they are quite funny – not to be taken seriously! Women’s English: Yes = No No = Yes Maybe = No I’m sorry = You’ll be sorry We need = I Read more about Women’s English and Men’s English[…]

Five steps to dealing with unpleasant behaviour

Five steps to dealing with unpleasant behaviour by Jacquie Wise Whether we’re dealing with kids, who haven’t yet matured, or kidults, who are taking their jolly time maturing, (that’s most of us, by the way…) the steps to correcting unpleasant behaviour are the same. Step 1: Observe Notice when the behaviour occurs. There may be a Read more about Five steps to dealing with unpleasant behaviour[…]

How can I forget my former partner?

How can I forget my former partner? by Jacquie Wise Question: I’m very close to my current partner, who has started talking about us living together and even getting married. I’m so excited about this. He’s really right for me. The trouble is, I was married before, and my former husband keeps popping into my mind. Read more about How can I forget my former partner?[…]

You Don’t Bring Me Flowers Anymore And You Don’t Respect My Need For Space

You Don’t Bring Me Flowers Anymore And You Don’t Respect My Need For Space by Jacquie Wise A common source of hurt in relationships is feeling unloved. It could be simply because you’re just not speaking the right language. Intimate relationships go through classic phases. First, there’s the auditioning phase, when we’re on our best behaviour Read more about You Don’t Bring Me Flowers Anymore And You Don’t Respect My Need For Space[…]

How to express how you both really feel in a relationship

How to express how you both really feel in a relationship by Jacquie Wise Question: My partner and I recently split up, because we both felt unfulfilled in our relationship.  We’ve now decided to try again, because we’ve realised we only ever communicate on the surface of life.  We never discuss emotions, or talk in Read more about How to express how you both really feel in a relationship[…]

How others treat you is a reflection of how you treat yourself

How others treat you is a reflection of how you treat yourself by Jacquie Wise If you treat yourself well, you’ll attract others who treat you well. If you neglect your needs, you’ll find that same behaviour reflected in the way others neglect you. It took years for me to learn to respect myself. When Read more about How others treat you is a reflection of how you treat yourself[…]

How to get rid of unhealthy relationships

How to get rid of unhealthy relationships by Jacquie Wise When we feel drained or worn out, we typically look to the demands of our workloads to find a solution. But perhaps your energy is being drained by worn-out relationships. A good step in the direction of uncomplicating your life is to decide what to Read more about How to get rid of unhealthy relationships[…]

How do you show someone you love them? How do you love yourself?

How do you show someone you love them?  How do you love yourself? by Jacquie Wise Self-esteem is hinged on self-respect.  If you treat yourself well, you’ll attract others to treat you well too. Aren’t these the ways you show someone you love them? • you go out of your way to provide what they Read more about How do you show someone you love them? How do you love yourself?[…]

How to communicate with empathy and avoid conflict

How to communicate with empathy and avoid conflict by Jacquie Wise Talking and listening are the best ways to gain empathy and understanding and avoid conflict. But what can you do if the communication pattern between you is to yell at each other, each one trying to get the other to listen? Talking and listening Read more about How to communicate with empathy and avoid conflict[…]

Six essential ingredients of mature love

Six essential ingredients of mature love by Jacquie Wise ‘All you need is love’….  That’s how all the songs go.  That’s the romantic ideal we are all hard-wired to aspire to. The need to belong, to love and be loved is part of human nature. But why does it so often go wrong?  Because some Read more about Six essential ingredients of mature love[…]

You, sexual fantasies and your partner

You, sexual fantasies and your partner by Jacquie Wise Question Is it okay to have sexual fantasies about someone else while you’re making love to your partner? Answer Every action and every thought affects the fabric of the relations and the energy field that flows between two people.  Your relationship is like a bank:  every Read more about You, sexual fantasies and your partner[…]

How to deal with relatives

How to deal with relatives who criticise you or put you down

How to deal with relatives who criticise you or put you down by Jacquie Wise At this time of year, with family get-togethers looming for end-of-year celebrations, many people ask me how to deal with relatives who criticise and put you down. People who criticise you are not always out to belittle you. They may be Read more about How to deal with relatives who criticise you or put you down[…]

What to do on a first date – three tips for success

What to do on a first date – three tips for success by Jacquie Wise Question: When I’m on a first date, I just freeze.  I’m too self-conscious, so I hold back, not knowing how to behave.  The more I like the guy I’m dating, the more I freeze and I don’t give him a chance Read more about What to do on a first date – three tips for success[…]

What about you?

What About You? by Jacquie Wise Someone will always be better looking Someone will always be smarter Some of their houses will be bigger Their children will do better in school What about you? The best looking man in the world can have hell in his heart The smartest woman at your work may be Read more about What about you?[…]

Are You and Your Partner too Different for a Relationship?

Are You and Your Partner too Different for a Relationship? by Jacquie Wise Question How do you deal with a partner who is very different from you?  For example, my partner likes spending and I believe in saving.  He needs routine and I prefer flexibility. He’s also tied to his family and I’m more independent. Read more about Are You and Your Partner too Different for a Relationship?[…]

How to get people to listen to you and be heard

How to get people to listen to you and be heard by Jacquie Wise What’s worse than being on the wrong side of an argument?  Being on the right side with nobody listening. What does it take to get people to listen to you?  What turns them off? These pointers should help you be heard Read more about How to get people to listen to you and be heard[…]

Connecting with teenagers and children when you are a working parent

Connecting with teenagers and children when you are a working parent by Jacquie Wise Connecting with those you love. Here’s an issue close to the heart of anyone who’s a parent; or anyone who finds it difficult to connect with a loved one at a deeper level. Question: As a parent with a demanding job, I Read more about Connecting with teenagers and children when you are a working parent[…]

Who Am I? How To Be More Authentic

Who Am I? How To Be More Authentic

Who Am I? How To Be More Authentic by Jacquie Wise Have you ever wondered, who am I? How can I be more authentic? Do you have a strong sense of who you really are, or do you feel a fraud? Do people say to you GET REAL! One of our fundamental human needs is Read more about Who Am I? How To Be More Authentic[…]

Questions to ask at the beginning of a new relationship

Questions to ask at the beginning of a new relationship by Jacquie Wise It may be daunting to find the right questions to ask at the beginning of a new relationship. Statistics say that, in Australia, over 40% of marriages end in divorce. I wonder if it’s got something to do with making a commitment Read more about Questions to ask at the beginning of a new relationship[…]

Overcoming low self esteem

Overcoming low self esteem by Jacquie Wise High self-esteem is a quality that eludes many of us.  I came across an interesting perspective recently that I thought would be worth sharing. I was talking about self esteem to a very scientific, matter-of-fact, analytical type.  I was trying to get him to develop positive thinking, self Read more about Overcoming low self esteem[…]

Newcomers Network

Sue Ellson from Newcomers Network on Wise Ways Radio Program

Sue Ellson from Newcomers Network on Wise Ways Radio Program by Jacquie Wise It is hard to believe that today I completed my third last Wise Ways Radio Program! Yes, on Friday 29 March 2013, after 936 programs over 18 years, the Wise Ways Radio Program on Southern FM 88.3FM will be ending. Today I Read more about Sue Ellson from Newcomers Network on Wise Ways Radio Program[…]

What do I do if someone is gossiping about me?

What do I do if someone is gossiping about me? by Jacquie Wise I wonder how many people would have nothing to talk about beyond gossiping about everyone else. Not all chatter about you is gossip though.  Exchanging news about you shows people are interested in what you’re doing, as long as it’s without malice.  Read more about What do I do if someone is gossiping about me?[…]

What’s it like for someone to love you and be loved by you?

What’s it like for someone to love you and be loved by you? by Jacquie Wise Valentine’s Day… I’d forgotten all about it until someone reminded me.  (Says a lot about what’s going on in my life, doesn’t it!) Well—you can’t attract what you don’t have within you, so for some time, I’ve been focusing Read more about What’s it like for someone to love you and be loved by you?[…]

The Secret of Love (Spoiler Alert) by Deepak Chopra MD

The Secret of Love (Spoiler Alert) by Deepak Chopra MD I discovered this great article on The Secret of Love by Deepak Chopra MD on LinkedIn recently. What I like about it is: love is a process in time the ego returns with the claims of “I, me, and mine.” At that point love must Read more about The Secret of Love (Spoiler Alert) by Deepak Chopra MD[…]

Why connecting face to face is better than being friends on Facebook

Do you want Facebook Friends or Real Friends? by Jacquie Wise There are many ways to keep connected to your friends and family apart from Facebook so set up your systems for a happy new year now! Happy New Year! I wish you all a year full of warmth, caring and love. The new world Read more about Why connecting face to face is better than being friends on Facebook[…]

How do you know when you have found true love?

Finding true love – what questions do you need answered? by Jacquie Wise If you have been together a year or more, the ‘auditioning’ phase when you are on your best behaviour, trying to impress, has long passed. The relationship should have matured by now into something deeper. These key questions will help you recognise true Read more about How do you know when you have found true love?[…]

Daughter’s view of her gay dads

A story from a daughter about her gay dads In November 2012, Miss Sophia Bailey-Klugh wrote a letter to President Barack Obama about people at school making fun of her gay dads and thanking him for his support of gay marriage. Interestingly, President Obama responded and mentioned that no two families are the same and Read more about Daughter’s view of her gay dads[…]

How to deal with difficult people at Christmas

The Hidden Gifts Of Christmas by Jacquie Wise Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year Celebrations are supposed to be a time of bonding and connecting with those we love.  A time of remembering those far away, and letting them know we’re thinking of them.  But too often it can be a time of groaning: ‘Do I Read more about How to deal with difficult people at Christmas[…]

How to Avoid Misunderstandings and Ensure Clear Communication in Your Relationships

I Never Said That! by Jacquie Wise How many times do people around you assume you said something totally different to what you actually said?  Infuriating isn’t it?  Why can’t they listen properly? After all, what you said was quite clear! (Wasn’t it?)  The following keys to good communication will help you avoid misunderstandings and Read more about How to Avoid Misunderstandings and Ensure Clear Communication in Your Relationships[…]

Successful Relationships Compatibility Compromise Commitment Communication Chemistry

The Five Cs of Successful Relationships – Compatibility Compromise Commitment Communication Chemistry By Jacquie Wise Recently, I’ve had several clients who’ve raised concerns about their relationships. As always, their questions lead me to developing a new Wise Way—in this case a consolidation of the essential components of successful relationships (Sorry—I’m on a roll here with Read more about Successful Relationships Compatibility Compromise Commitment Communication Chemistry[…]

R U OK? Day Thursday 13 September 2012 A conversation could change a life Are you okay?

R U OK? Day There has been a lot of media over the last few weeks leading up today’s R U OK? Day.  I’m so impressed, not only by this initiative but also by the wonderful resources on the R U OK? Day website. In the Resources for You section there are two terrific buttons Read more about R U OK? Day Thursday 13 September 2012 A conversation could change a life Are you okay?[…]

How to Let Go of the Past and Move On

Six common reasons we stay stuck the past and what to do about them by Jacquie Wise Read my next statement with clenched teeth: It’s time for me to let go and embrace changes in my life.  Can you feel my resistance?  What better time and topic to write about than letting go, closures and Read more about How to Let Go of the Past and Move On[…]

September 11 What Choices Can we Make for the Future?

September 11 is stamped in our memory by Jacquie Wise It’s an important ritual to remember and commemorate significant dates in our lives, be they positive or negative.  This gives us the opportunity to reflect on causes and solutions, to celebrate changes we’ve made since, or to honour those who contributed to our growth and Read more about September 11 What Choices Can we Make for the Future?[…]

How to make people open up

People are like doors – How to make people open up by Jacquie Wise If you want to understand how to make people open up, think of them as doors and use the same strategies. There are all kinds of different ways to open a door. A few are wide open, allowing you to walk Read more about How to make people open up[…]

Changing behaviour in relationships – get fit for life and love

Are you behaviourally fit for your partner? by Jacquie Wise Physical fitness has come to make so much sense that we are either doing it, or know we need to do it. What are we doing, though, about our behavioural fitness? Maybe it’s time you did some shaping up inside—to become more at peace with Read more about Changing behaviour in relationships – get fit for life and love[…]

Lessons to teach my daughter and son

(Anonymous) We need to teach our daughters to distinguish between a man who flatters her—and a man who compliments her. A man who spends money on her—and a man who invests in her. A man who views her as property—and a man who views her properly. A man who lusts after her—and a man who Read more about Lessons to teach my daughter and son[…]

Poem – On being yourself

On Being Yourself (Anonymous) You must learn that you cannot be loved by all people. You can be the finest apple in the world— ripe, juicy, sweet, succulent, and offer yourself to all. But you must remember that there will always be people who don’t like apples. You must understand that if you are the Read more about Poem – On being yourself[…]