Wise Ways to make sure your decision is realistic
by Jacquie Wise
In one ear, you have friends encouraging you to stop doubting yourself and to ‘go for it’. In the other ear, you have someone else warning you that you’re just dreaming. In the middle, your head is spinning. Sound familiar?
You can tell if you’re being realistic if you get detailed answers to these questions:
1 Does this goal meet ALL my objectives?
2 Are there any hidden objectives? (eg a career goal mixed up with an emotional goal.)
3 Do I have the necessary skills and knowledge?
4 If not, what do I need to learn?
5 Who can help me with whatever’s beyond me?
6 What criteria need to be in place to make this possible?
7 If important criteria are missing, what could be adapted to make it possible in a different way?
8 If it’s not possible as I imagined it, could it be partly possible? Would that idea be acceptable as a compromise?
9 If it’s not possible in the short term, what are the steps I can take in the short term to make it possible in the longer term?
10 What other options are there that I haven’t considered?
How to know whether the advice you’re being given is valid
Getting good advice is partly a matter of the right time, and partly a matter of choosing the right source.
The right time: Only when you’ve thought through the answers to these questions yourself, is it the right time to seek advice. Asking people’s opinions before you’ve done your research will only confuse you.
The right source: Are you sure your source has the experience to give you valid advice? Have they already succeeded in something similar? (Or at least, what can you learn from their mistakes?). To make sure you get a balanced view, seek advice from three different sources – professional when necessary – just remember that if you were going to get a tradesperson to complete a task, you would get three quotes.
If you go through this process, it’ll be much easier to sort fact from fantasy.
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