How can I forget my former partner?
When you have a former partner that you were very attached to, it can be hard to move forward.
Question
I’m very close to my current partner, who has started talking about us living together and even getting married. I’m so excited about this. He’s really right for me. The trouble is, I was married before, and my former husband keeps popping into my mind. Does that mean I still love him? Does it mean I’m not ready to move on? I need to know so I don’t ruin this chance I have to be with the most amazing man, who knows nothing of my turmoil. How can you forget your former partner if things were left unresolved?
Answer
What you’re experiencing need not worry you at all. It’s perfectly logical for memories of your first husband to pop into your mind now, as you’re deciding to possibly get married again.
Remembering him does not mean you still love him and can’t love another.
All it means is that you have memories. That’s ok. He’s just a ghost.
In order to move on, all you need to do with memories is pack them in an imaginary suitcase and take them with you. That’s all. Stick them in an imaginary attic…you can take a look now and then and put them back where they belong, with other things that represent your history.
Instead of being afraid of your memories and trying to block them, why not value the experiences you had and the lessons they taught you?
A former partner can teach us a lot about ourselves.
You can’t change or shed the past, you can only take it with you as you move on.
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