How Do You Handle Worries? Two Ways to Cope with Nagging Worries

Nagging worries can destroy your peace of mind.

There are two ways to cope with nagging worries. One way will drag you into a downward spiral of negativity and hopelessness. That’s Destructive Worry. The other way will lead you towards the best solution. That’s Constructive Worry.

Ask yourself these questions to find out if your tendency is Destructive:

I worry endlessly and can’t control it. It affects my sleep, energy, diet and mood.

I convince myself that

It hasn’t really happened
It’s someone else’s fault
Whatever I try to do will be a disaster
It’ll go away by itself
If I ignore it, someone else will fix it
People will be talking about me behind my back

Moving nagging worries from destructive to constructive.

Here’s how to use Constructive Worry to move from problems to solution:

Planning:

I make it a priority to develop a strategy and plan of action
I give myself time and space to concentrate without distraction

Taking action:

I take appropriate action to improve what I can
I learn the necessary skills (eg conflict management)
As often as possible, I take action when the time is right
I delay only if there’s a very good reason

Seeking help:

I seek advice from people with knowledge and experience
I ask friends or colleagues for help with specific tasks
Seeking professional coaching where necessary
I outsource if it moves my project forward

Reframing and Growth:

I change any negative self-talk to a realistically positive outlook
Looking for the benefits and growth opportunities in the situation
I change destructive behaviours (eg sabotage/procrastination)

Nagging worries can derail your priorities.

Venting and Releasing:

I talk to people who can provide me with emotional support
Letting my feelings out in a journal
I do vigorous exercise to release pent-up stress

Accepting:

I take responsibility for my contribution to the situation
Accepting with compassion that others may not be able to change
I accept that nothing more can be done; I’ve done the best I can
I let go of guilt, learn from the situation and move on

Communicating:

I ensure all stakeholders are kept well-informed at each stage of the process. If I have to communicate a problem or mistake, I specify the action I intend to take to deal with it.

Dealing with nagging worries is important.

Imagine how you would feel if you were confident in handling worries. Interested? If so, contact me directly to arrange a convenient appointment time.

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