Are the signs of your life confirming you’re going in the right direction?

It can be hard to tell if the signs in your life are confirming whether or not you’re going in the right direction. A client of mine was telling me how disappointed she was that a guy she’d liked hadn’t called her again after the first date.   The conversation led to signs; that he was a sign that things were moving in her life. But the time was not yet right for her to meet THE man. When she looked at what was going on in her life at the time, she saw that maybe there was something to that. There was no room for a full-on relationship.

When I’m lost, I stop to look at a road map.  Asking directions doesn’t work for me, since I forget what I’m told within five seconds.

It’s the same in life.  People can give you all kinds of directions, but we can’t really be confident until we can see the signs for ourselves. Life gives us so many signs that we are on the right or the wrong track.  Signs may come in the shape of people or situations.  Or work.

What does the right direction look like?

For example, a friend of mine has set herself up in business as a marketing consultant.  But she keeps getting assignments to design websites, because she’s good at it.  She’s coming around to the concept of signs. She still needs those jobs because she finds them easy and she needs to develop her confidence to charge appropriately.  When she’s ready, she’ll find the kind of work she gets will shift by itself, until it gets to the point when she can make a confident decision to be more selective on the work she accepts.

I’ve had many signs lately that I’m on the right track and it is very reassuring.

Many years ago, I used to attract friendships with people who were either extremely possessive or takers who never gave anything in return.  As I learnt to recognise what was happening, I would see how my life was changing. Sometimes they were only small shifts, other times, a big change would occur.  Each situation was a clear sign that I was moving in the right direction. It gave me extra confidence to keep walking on my new path.

What could the right direction look like?

Now, I get nothing but warmth and closeness without feeling suffocated. Sometimes the situations or people I encounter have shown me I need to do something different. Maybe be more assertive. Or sometimes they’ve taught me to let someone in. Little shift by little shift, I always look for the meaning behind each situation. I take the action I think is most appropriate, and wait for the next sign.