If someone says something hurtful to you during a holiday gathering, there are 3 powerful strategies you can choose from to stop bad karma from building:
What are 4 wiser ways I can heal bad karma? Read More »
How To Be A More Gentle Person If there is a manual about how to be a gentle person you clearly need to visit Vietnam to understand it. I’ve just returned from Vietnam, where I encountered the gentlest, most respectful culture I have ever met. I thought, this is the world we all wish to see. This is how
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If you find yourself crumbling under the weight of constant criticism, there are essential perspectives to consider before you respond, and six approaches you could choose to respond in the most constructive manner possible.
How To Cope With Constant Criticism Read More »
In the month of Valentine’s Day, there’s plenty of inspiration about how we express love to someone special. But being a loving person extends way beyond that. We all like to believe we’re compassionate, kind and loving people. How can we tell? Aside from popular, meaningless quizzes, that is. Here’s another thought: if you want to attract love into your life, you need to begin by being a loving person yourself.
How Compassionate and Loving Are You? Read More »
To ensure your relationships (including friendships for that matter) continue to thrive, you need to review if your mutual needs are being met. In much the same way as you review your career, personal or health progress to ensure success, why not do a ‘health check’ of your relationships?
Is Your Relationship Thriving or Stagnating? Read More »
Do you have the courage to break up in the right way? Do you even know what the ‘right’ way is? There are specific steps you can take to minimise the risk of breaking up in the first place, and minimise heart-breaks if there is hope of saving the relationship.
Break up without breaking a heart Read More »
At Christmas time we are often thrown together with people we don’t especially like, or worse, with whom we’ve fallen out. General advice tells you to forgive, to be loving…not necessarily easy, nor appropriate. So what other options do you have?
Do you have to forgive people who have hurt you? Read More »
We all want to be trusted. If you don’t have faith in people, how can you learn to trust?
How do you trust someone in a relationship? Read More »
I don’t feel like telling him I love him if I don’t feel it after we’ve had an argument. So we’re going round in horrible circles and it’s getting worse. What can I do?
I don’t want to say I love you anymore Read More »
There are many different ways to assess people. Thinking of potential partners as fruits is an amusing, yet very clear way to figure out which one your intended partner is.
Seven Types of Romantic Partners Read More »
It’s too easy for us to make mistakes in important relationships. Perhaps we confuse infatuation and physical attraction with love. We believe that if we ‘fall in love’, the rest will fall into place.
Are you really in love or just infatuated? Read More »
The post Charlie Chaplin – As I Began To Love Myself – Self Love Poem appeared first on The Unbounded Spirit.
Charlie Chaplin – As I Began To Love Myself – Self Love Poem Read More »
If you want to attract love in your life, be it through a partner, loving friends or family, you need to be a loving person yourself.
Only love attracts a loving vibration.
Eight Wise Ways to be a Loving Person and Attract Love in Your Life Read More »
Kissing and hugging your family and close friends is very different from the more formal air-kisses we give others. In a general context, one argument is that if you air-kiss and hug everyone indiscriminately, it leaves nothing special you can do to indicate you like and value someone.
The Etiquette of Kissing and Hugging Read More »
Many of us begin with good intentions that somehow fade as the year progresses. It might work better for you if you focus on the things you want to STOP doing.
Forget New Year Resolutions – Go for New Year Revolutions Read More »
Found these comments in an old email I received a long time ago – Unfortunately, author is unknown but they are quite funny – not to be taken seriously!
Women’s English and Men’s English Read More »
Whether we’re dealing with kids, who haven’t yet matured, or kidults, who are taking their jolly time maturing, (that’s most of us, by the way…) the steps to correcting unpleasant behaviour are the same.
Five steps to dealing with unpleasant behaviour Read More »
I’m very close to my current partner, who has started talking about us living together and even getting married. I’m so excited about this. He’s really right for me. The trouble is, I was married before, and my former husband keeps popping into my mind. Does that mean I still love him? Does it mean I’m not ready to move on? I need to know so I don’t ruin this chance I have to be with the most amazing man, who knows nothing of my turmoil.
How can I forget my former partner? Read More »
A common source of hurt in relationships is feeling unloved. It could be simply because you’re just not speaking the right language. Intimate relationships go through classic phases.
First, there’s the auditioning phase, when we’re on our best behaviour because we want to impress. We’re paying close attention to our loved one as we get to know them. It may take as long as a full year or more, depending on how often we see each other, to decide ‘this is the one for me’.
You Don’t Bring Me Flowers Anymore And You Don’t Respect My Need For Space Read More »
My partner and I recently split up, because we both felt unfulfilled in our relationship. We’ve now decided to try again, because we’ve realised we only ever communicate on the surface of life. We never discuss emotions, or talk in depth. We never fight. We’ve both been afraid to tell each other if we’re angry or upset. We’ve never had an honest relationship. Now we want to do things differently. Where do we begin?
How to express how you both really feel in a relationship Read More »
If you treat yourself well, you’ll attract others who treat you well. If you neglect your needs, you’ll find that same behaviour reflected in the way others neglect you.
How others treat you is a reflection of how you treat yourself Read More »
When we feel drained or worn out, we typically look to the demands of our workloads to find a solution. But perhaps your energy is being drained by worn-out relationships. A good step in the direction of uncomplicating your life is to decide what to do about the complicated people in it.
How to get rid of unhealthy relationships Read More »
Self-esteem is hinged on self-respect. If you treat yourself well, you’ll attract others to treat you well too.
How do you show someone you love them? How do you love yourself? Read More »
Talking and listening are the best ways to gain empathy and understanding and avoid conflict.
How to communicate with empathy and avoid conflict Read More »
Does your relationship include these six essential ingredients?
Six essential ingredients of mature love Read More »
Is it okay to have sexual fantasies about someone else while you’re making love to your partner?
You, sexual fantasies and your partner Read More »
At this time of year, with family get-togethers looming for end-of-year celebrations, many people ask me how to deal with relatives who criticise and put you down.
How to deal with relatives who criticise you or put you down Read More »
When I’m on a first date, I just freeze. I’m too self-conscious, so I hold back, not knowing how to behave. The more I like the guy I’m dating, the more I freeze and I don’t give him a chance to get to know me. No amount of positive self-talk helps me be who I really am.
What to do on a first date – three tips for success Read More »
Someone will always be better looking
Someone will always be smarter
Some of their houses will be bigger
Their children will do better in school
How do you deal with a partner who is very different from you? For example, my partner likes spending and I believe in saving. He needs routine and I prefer flexibility. He’s also tied to his family and I’m more independent.
I love him to bits but we have a lot of arguments about the littlest things. Is there any way we can handle our arguments better?
Are You and Your Partner too Different for a Relationship? Read More »
What’s worse than being on the wrong side of an argument? Being on the right side with nobody listening.
How to get people to listen to you and be heard Read More »
Here’s an issue close to the heart of anyone who’s a parent; or anyone who finds it difficult to connect with a loved one at a deeper level.
Connecting with teenagers and children when you are a working parent Read More »
It may be daunting to find the right questions to ask at the beginning of a new relationship.
Questions to ask at the beginning of a new relationship Read More »
High self-esteem is a quality that eludes many of us. I came across an interesting perspective recently that I thought would be worth sharing.
Overcoming low self esteem Read More »
Today I interviewed Sue Ellson, the Founder and Director of Newcomers Network.
Sue Ellson from Newcomers Network on Wise Ways Radio Program Read More »
I wonder how many people would have nothing to talk about beyond gossiping about everyone else.
What do I do if someone is gossiping about me? Read More »
Valentine’s Day… I’d forgotten all about it until someone reminded me. (Says a lot about what’s going on in my life, doesn’t it!)
What’s it like for someone to love you and be loved by you? Read More »
I discovered this great article on The Secret of Love by Deepak Chopra MD on LinkedIn recently.
The Secret of Love (Spoiler Alert) by Deepak Chopra MD Read More »
I wish you all a year full of warmth, caring and love. The new world way is a compassionate, loving way. Let’s promote and spread that frequency by connecting with friends more often. Facebook in no way replaces personal contact. It’s too impersonal and doesn’t make anyone feel as if they’re special to you.
Why connecting face to face is better than being friends on Facebook Read More »
If you have been together a year or more, the ‘auditioning’ phase when you are on your best behaviour, trying to impress, has long passed. The relationship should have matured by now into something deeper.
How do you know when you have found true love? Read More »
In November 2012, Miss Sophia Bailey-Klugh wrote a letter to President Barack Obama about people at school making fun of her gay dads and thanking him for his support of gay marriage.
Daughter’s view of her gay dads Read More »
Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year Celebrations are supposed to be a time of bonding and connecting with those we love. A time of remembering those far away, and letting them know we’re thinking of them. But too often it can be a time of groaning: ‘Do I REALLY have to see them?’ What hidden gifts are these ‘difficult’ people bringing you? Maybe just the gift you really need!
How to deal with difficult people at Christmas Read More »
How many times do people around you assume you said something totally different to what you actually said? Infuriating isn’t it? Why can’t they listen properly? After all, what you said was quite clear! (Wasn’t it?) The following keys to good communication will help you avoid misunderstandings and ensure clear communication.
How to Avoid Misunderstandings and Ensure Clear Communication in Your Relationships Read More »
Recently, I’ve had several clients who’ve raised concerns about their relationships. As always, their questions lead me to developing a new Wise Way—in this case a consolidation of the essential components of successful relationships (Sorry—I’m on a roll here with my Cs…!)
Successful Relationships Compatibility Compromise Commitment Communication Chemistry Read More »
There has been a lot of media over the last few weeks leading up today’s R U OK? Day. I’m so impressed, not only by this initiative but also by the wonderful resources on the R U OK? Day website.
R U OK? Day Thursday 13 September 2012 A conversation could change a life Are you okay? Read More »
Letting go of the past can simply mean focusing on what you want in the future instead of focusing on what’s gone.
How to Let Go of the Past and Move On Read More »
It’s an important ritual to remember and commemorate significant dates in our lives, be they positive or negative. This gives us the opportunity to reflect on causes and solutions, to celebrate changes we’ve made since, or to honour those who contributed to our growth and success.
September 11 What Choices Can we Make for the Future? Read More »
If you want to understand how to make people open up, think of them as doors and use the same strategies.
How to make people open up Read More »
Your relationships will also improve, as others are touched or inspired by your efforts.
Are you behaviourally fit for your partner? Read More »
