My question today is, how do I address the conflict I have between doing and having a job, or being creative? More importantly, if ones ‘nine to five’ job and the stress it involves interferes with your creative life?
There is your unconscious self in which you hold your fears or strengths and secret desires. All of these become unconscious drivers that control your behaviour without you understanding why. Of course you can’t – because they are unconscious. Your saboteur lives in your unconscious.
Here are a few tips to ensure you don’t allow careless mistakes to ruin your reputation as an educated professional who pays attention to detail.
You can be highly motivated, but unless you’re good at organising yourself, you could get stuck in overwhelm and inactivity.
Kissing and hugging your family and close friends is very different from the more formal air-kisses we give others. In a general context, one argument is that if you air-kiss and hug everyone indiscriminately, it leaves nothing special you can do to indicate you like and value someone.
Question: I am enjoying the Wise Ways newsletters. My question is, the conflict between doing and having a job, or being creative? Or more importantly if one’s nine to five job and the stress it involves impinges on your creative life? DH
Most religions have periods of fasting, or sacrifice, of reflection, repentance, and atonement.
Many of us begin with good intentions that somehow fade as the year progresses. It might work better for you if you focus on the things you want to STOP doing.
Found these comments in an old email I received a long time ago – Unfortunately, author is unknown but they are quite funny – not to be taken seriously!
“Your death, near now, is of an easy sort.
So slow a fading out brings no real pain.
Breath growing short
Is just uncomfortable. You feel the drain
Of energy, but thought and sight remain:
I am so keen to practice mindfulness meditation, but my work is so busy, I have no time. When I get home, I have to prepare dinner and then I’m exhausted and forget all about it. My mind won’t stop racing. There’s nothing else I can let go to make room for mindfulness. How do busy people fit it in?
December can be a time of year when you scramble between children’s end-of-year concerts, work strategic planning days, end-of-year parties, family obligations, gift hunting…
Even just writing this makes me feel frazzled!
Typically, we tend to strive for some end point that will make us reach enlightenment. If we feel we’ve arrived, some of us assume we are spiritually superior in some way.
I work for a company that has a contract with a major corporate client. Every couple of years our company has to re-compete in order to renew the contract. I was new to the position, which involves managing many different small projects between me and a counterpart. He managed the majority of projects.
As we draw towards the end of a year, this is the time to review how we went; what we accomplished, what we’d like to change in future, what we regret. Regret? What’s the point of that? They say that guilt is a useless emotion. Let go of the past and get on with the present, they say. But what if the past won’t let go of you?
Every emotion has a valuable purpose. If we acknowledge our emotions, they’ll alert us to our deep-seated needs and motivate us to find ways to meet those needs. If we dismiss them, we risk ending up with repression, which leads to that pressure-cooker feeling. Trying to ignore emotions is like trying to ignore children. They’ll only yell louder until you pay attention.
A Wise Way to manage stress…We talk about managing stress, but I believe we need to learn how to minimise our reactions, so that we’re able to let things wash over us.
Whether we’re dealing with kids, who haven’t yet matured, or kidults, who are taking their jolly time maturing, (that’s most of us, by the way…) the steps to correcting unpleasant behaviour are the same.
One has many ‘opportunities’ that come knocking, how do you discriminate as when to take them and when not?
My tendency is to think carefully most of the time (evaluate) before accepting or going with it. Till now, I have trusted this thinking process. Do you think I should just trial saying ‘’Yes” for the next while and see what results and over-ride the thinking process?
I’m very close to my current partner, who has started talking about us living together and even getting married. I’m so excited about this. He’s really right for me. The trouble is, I was married before, and my former husband keeps popping into my mind. Does that mean I still love him? Does it mean I’m not ready to move on? I need to know so I don’t ruin this chance I have to be with the most amazing man, who knows nothing of my turmoil.
Sara (not her real name) is very frustrated at her work. Her managers are not proactive. She can see what needs to be done to solve problems, and her solutions are approved, but then nothing happens.
The challenge of any leader is to keep people highly motivated, so that they contribute their best.
Good leaders conduct good performance appraisal interviews. Bad leaders don’t see the need to give staff any feedback.
A common source of hurt in relationships is feeling unloved. It could be simply because you’re just not speaking the right language. Intimate relationships go through classic phases.
First, there’s the auditioning phase, when we’re on our best behaviour because we want to impress. We’re paying close attention to our loved one as we get to know them. It may take as long as a full year or more, depending on how often we see each other, to decide ‘this is the one for me’.
Go back in time. Recall teachers or early supervisors who stand out in your memory.
I have recently realised how much I have slipped in my life and allowed myself to withdraw and stagnate. I’ve lost a lot of confidence. I need to know how to shift the frequencies around me so that I can begin to attract a better life. What are simple things I can do to shift the energy field around me?
My partner and I recently split up, because we both felt unfulfilled in our relationship. We’ve now decided to try again, because we’ve realised we only ever communicate on the surface of life. We never discuss emotions, or talk in depth. We never fight. We’ve both been afraid to tell each other if we’re angry or upset. We’ve never had an honest relationship. Now we want to do things differently. Where do we begin?
Because of unusual challenges I’ve had to face in my life, I’ve developed a number of useful strategies to see me through very troubled times.
If you treat yourself well, you’ll attract others who treat you well. If you neglect your needs, you’ll find that same behaviour reflected in the way others neglect you.
We all (hopefully) grow up as we grow older. The results we get in life gives us feedback about whether or not we’ve developed new skills and understanding.
The trouble with the answer to that question is, just who is the ‘real’ you? How often do you ‘get real’, as your kids might say? Are you frightened to be who you really are?
Have you ever tried to learn something, only to find it takes forever, doesn’t sink in and you just give up? Do you criticise yourself for being a ‘slow learner’? It could be the way to fast track your success.
When we feel drained or worn out, we typically look to the demands of our workloads to find a solution. But perhaps your energy is being drained by worn-out relationships. A good step in the direction of uncomplicating your life is to decide what to do about the complicated people in it.
Most of us find it very difficult, but the worst thing you can do is avoid dealing with the issue. It doesn’t have to be unpleasant if you follow certain guidelines.
Thinking with your soul means looking for the higher purpose in every situation, and taking action from a more expanded perspective, or your Higher Self.
Confidence is the emotion most people are searching for, together with happiness. Certainly, the peace of mind that confidence brings will make you happier.
Self-esteem is hinged on self-respect. If you treat yourself well, you’ll attract others to treat you well too.
In our desire to find the one ideal solution, we tend to overlook many little ways to improve a situation.
You may have begun a degree course, only to lose interest in it. Or you may not know in which course of study you need to invest your time and money. You may not even know what career would suit you best.
If you know me personally, you’ll know I’m a compulsive-obsessive optimist. But I’m also realistic. I always look for evidence to back any claims I make. I’m currently very excited about the changes I see happening around the world.
There are two ways to cope with nagging worries. One way will drag you into a downward spiral of negativity and hopelessness. That’s Destructive Worry. The other way will lead you towards the best solution. That’s Constructive Worry.
Your letters and emails represent you and your company. Write badly and you risk confusion, time wasting, frustration, and your reputation.
Talking and listening are the best ways to gain empathy and understanding and avoid conflict.
Growth comes from reflecting on your experiences and gaining some wisdom to help you on your journey. That same reflection will also give you greater confidence for future decisions as you understand yourself better.
Does your relationship include these six essential ingredients?
There are some people who hold nothing back at work. Everyone knows all their woes and this can come back and bite them if the information gives a poor impression of how they are handling their work.
Do you use your credit card for online purchases? Of course you do. We know it’s not safe and places your credit card at risk of fraud, but what choice do you have?
To use our intuition, we need to learn to FEEL signals, as well as interpret visions or images. To operate on a higher level as well as a physical level, we need to be able to FEEL what’s going on in our lives.
Is it okay to have sexual fantasies about someone else while you’re making love to your partner?
The beginning of a new year is a good time to make sure you’re developing the skills and attributes that are most useful for your career path.
